1. 16:51 18th Feb 2012

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    Anonymous asked: What happens when you become the story all of your Exes have to tell?

    As long as it’s not the same story - good job - i would consider that a life full of interest!

     

  2. 20:44 6th Feb 2012

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    Anonymous asked: Are you feeling a little better than you were earlier, sunshine?

    Whiskey makes the heart grow fonder.  Well that and a good conversation with an old friend and the promise of horror movies with one that i love.

     

  3. 14:34 5th Feb 2012

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    Anonymous asked: Hi. She broke my heart, she blames me for everything, and now I need new friends. A new city. A new life. I shouldn't drink and tumbl.

    drinking and tumbling comes with a $100 fine payable to me.

    but sometimes new friends, new city, new life are exactly the answer.  It might be the one for you, it might not.  Just remember that it doesn’t matter if you move if you’re just going to do the same shit over and over and over.

    <3

     

  4. 17:34 28th Jan 2012

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    Anonymous asked: Is it possible, in your experiences, for exes to remain real friends?

    It depends on the person, the circumstances, etc.  There is no one answer for this.  

    My experience is that many of my relationships are very fluid - shifting from romantic to platonic and all those spaces in between. I believe that human interactions are dynamic and unlimited.

     

  5. 19:37 10th Jan 2012

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    Anonymous asked: What is your definition of "Sex Worker"?

    Well, hi anon!

    So I just so happened to write an entire thesis on sex work and sex worker activists.  I will just quote from it if you don’t mind?

    “The coining of the term sex worker was a deliberate action by one of the original feminist sex workers, Carol Leigh, aka Scarlot Harlot, in the early 1980s. As a hooker and a feminist, she found herself searching for a word that would position her and her fellow companions in the sex industry more appropriately…’As a poet and a wordsmith, I was intrigued by the potential of linguistic activism to bring women out of anonymity and proudly write our new herstory.’ The creation of this term gave sex workers of all types a label in which they could all define themselves by their work instead of their given societal status.

    Simply stated, sex workers can be anyone.  Services are provided by women, men and genderqueer folks.  They are straight, queer, bisexual.  They are every race; they operate in every country. They come from a variety of different economic backgrounds. Jeanette Angell, a former escort and sociology professor with her own memoir Callgirl elaborates on the variety of different people in the industry, ‘We are Democrats, Republican, Independents, Socialists and Libertarians. Some of us are kind to small animals. We are neither sex-obsessed nor nymphomaniacal. We have relationships, we build trust, and we keep secrets.  We are daughters, sisters and mothers; we are wives…” Every sex worker is a valid example of a sex worker experience and there are as many different experiences as there are sex workers.  There is not right or wrong way to do consensual sex work. There is no particular type of person that does sex work.

    There are a variety of jobs that are included in the term ‘sex worker.’ These include, but are not limited to strippers, phone sex operators, hookers, escorts, call girls, rent boys, erotic fiction writers, porn actors/directors/distributors, BDSM providers, fetishists, erotic models/photographers, sex toy distributors, and pretty much anyone else who specifically trades sexual services for goods (usually money).”

     

  6. 18:39 8th Jan 2012

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    Anonymous asked: Hi! I'm in my 30s, a working girl, very femme, very Boston, and very BI. It seems as though I am catching nothing but shade from my queers over the B word. You seem very knowledgeable about how these social things go down. What's your opinion about so many people hating on the B in the LGBT world?

    As politically aware queers, I’m sure we’d all love to think that we are above the social hierarchies that exist in the world, but the truth is, we aren’t. Not even close. And there are plenty of shitty shade-throwers in the mix, only loving on the queerest of the queer. And what are the rest of us supposed to do with that?

    Well.  Fuck ‘em.  I mean, maybe actually DON’T fuck ‘em.  That’ll show them :)  Really though, I make an honest attempt to educate and come from a mostly loving space at folks displaying ignorance.  And if that doesn’t work - then it’s time to let them be and to fight my fight elsewhere.

    My disclaimer is that I used to identify as bi throughout most of my 20s, but I ended up finding that queer was a much better identifier for myself because I date trans folks and folks that are gender queer and bisexual felt a little limiting to me in that regard.  But I don’t dismiss it.  Ride on bi-pony, ride on.